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Just engaged? Here’s what not to do next

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Home / Wedding Ideas / Just engaged? Here’s what not to do next
Just engaged? Here’s what not to do next

Just engaged? Here’s what not to do next

Just engaged? Congratulations! While it’s completely natural to get swept up in a whirlwind of excitement and feel the urge to run headfirst into planning your wedding, it’s so important to take a step back. There’s nothing quite like that newly engaged bubble and we know you’ll never regret taking some time to really soak up all the excitement before you get stuck into planning your big day.

At Prestwold Hall we’ve hosted hundreds of beautiful weddings and have helped guide many couples through the planning process. Here we share what not to do when you first get engaged…

groom twirling bride around garden at Prestwold Hall wedding
Credit: Bridger Film and Photography

1. Don’t share the news on social media straight away

You’re engaged – of course you want the whole world to know this off-the-scale exciting news! But, before you rush to post that engagement ring selfie on Instagram, think about who you’d like to tell in person first. Sharing the news with your closest friends and family – and watching their reactions – is something you’ll never forget, so while the temptation to tell the world your news straight away is strong, take time to share this special moment with you nearest and dearest first.

2. Don’t avoid the money talk

It’s probably the least exciting part of planning a wedding, but you really can’t start to plan your big day without talking finances. Whether you plan to fund your wedding as a couple, or with contributions from your parents, you need to set a realistic budget before you do anything. As a couple you need to be on the same page when it comes to what you feel is an acceptable budget for your wedding. Once that’s decided, create a spreadsheet where you can keep track of everything you spend, then you can get down to the really fun part of planning your day!

3. Don’t rush into choosing your wedding party

In the excitement that follows an engagement, it’s easy to rush in and ask friends and family to be your maid of honour/bridesmaids/best man/ushers when you first break the news, but try and take a step back and give yourself time to think these decisions through. Don’t feel obliged to pick someone to be your bridesmaid because they asked you to be theirs. Relationships change, situations differ, so just because that was the right choice for them, it might not be right for you. You need people who are genuinely excited for you, are willing to help out when you need them and who mean the world to you. Planning a wedding takes time so this really isn’t a decision you need to make straight away.

bride and bridesmaids in red outside Prestwold Hall wedding
Credit: A Big Neon Glitter Photography

4. Don’t say yes to everything or everyone

When you’re starting to share the news of your engagement there’s a good chance you’ll be inundated with requests (like Mum asking if her Pilates friends can come to your wedding) or offers of help. Whether it’s you best friend’s mum offering to bake your wedding cake or a cousin asking if you’d like them to photograph your day, don’t feel pressured into saying yes. Simply thank them and say you’ll think about it.

5. Don’t get stuck on the little details

It’s all those little personal touches that really bring a wedding together, but now is not the time to get bogged down in smaller details like favours or table décor. Instead, focus on getting the big things sorted first like the venue and guest list. Your wedding venue is one of the biggest decisions you can make as it really sets the tone for your day, so make your venue search a priority when you start planning.

6. Don’t invite anyone – yet

It’s natural to get caught up in the excitement after your engagement but try not to casually throw out invites for your wedding when sharing the news. At such an early stage in your planning things like the venue, budget or guest numbers won’t have been decided, so keep things vague and avoid committing to anything just yet.

groom jumping in the air as he walks down the aisle with bride
Credit: Holly-Jo Whitehall

7. Don’t feel obliged to take on everyone’s advice

The one guarantee about your wedding is that everyone will have an opinion on it. It’s unavoidable, however the amount of generally well-intentioned advice can often feel a little overwhelming when you’ve only just got engaged. Dealing diplomatically with unsolicited advice will soon become your superpower. Listen to what they have to say (some advice may well be great advice) but don’t feel obliged to act on any of it if you don’t want to.

8. Don’t go dress shopping straight away

The desire to head straight to a bridal boutique as soon as you’re engaged may be strong but try and hold off starting the wedding dress or suit search for a moment. Before you step foot inside a bridal boutique it’s important to think about the boring, practical things like what your budget for the dress or suit will be. It definitely helps to have the venue sorted before you go dress shopping as this really does define the style of the day.

bride in princess wedding dress outside Prestwold Hall
Credit: Emma Pilkington

9. Don’t do it all by yourself

Even if you’ve had a wedding Pinterest board on the go for years, the prospect of actually planning your big day can be overwhelming. Whatever you do, try not to let wedding planning become this huge, scary thing you feel like you have to manage alone. It’s your day and you can celebrate exactly the way you like – no pressure. Plus, you’re a team, so let your partner share the load and enjoy the planning process together – and always accept offers of help from friends and family if you need to.

10. Don’t forget to enjoy it

The ‘just engaged’ bubble is something really special, so take time to soak up the excitement and the celebrations. Mark the occasion, whether that’s with an engagement party or relaxed drinks with your loved ones, enjoy time together as a couple and bask in that newly engaged glow.

exterior shot of Prestwold Hall and grounds
Credit: Sarah-Jane Edwards at Simply Beautiful Film & Photography

Ready to find your perfect venue?

As we’ve mentioned before, choosing the right venue is such a huge part of wedding planning and really does set the tone for the whole day. If you’re searching for a luxurious wedding venue in Leicestershire, Prestwold Hall is the perfect choice. Our historic, Grade I stately home, near Loughborough, is an elegant, exclusive-use venue for a wedding with the wow-factor. Our friendly team would love the opportunity to show you around our stunning manor house and gardens, so you can see what makes Prestwold Hall so special. If you’d like to book a viewing or have any questions for the Prestwold Hall wedding team, just click here and we’ll get straight back to you.

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